Whether it’s a friendship, courtship, or work relationship… we’ve all been there. At a place where we find ourselves asking… “Why am I in this relationship?”
The writing has been on the wall for a minute. You know the relationship has run it’s course, but find it hard to let go.
Sometimes people are unaware of their behavior. If you find that you have a friend/mate who you feel could be a better friend/mate, express your feelings to them. If they are a true friend, they won’t be offended. Take this also as an opportunity to ask them what you can do ,to be a better friend/mate to them. You might be surprised at their answer as well. But don’t be offended.
If you find yourself avoiding certain conversations, constantly apologizing or making excuses for their behavior then you may be in a toxic relationship. If something feels wrong, then more than likely something is wrong.
So how do you know if your’e in a toxic relationship? When the relationship becomes dangerous, harmful, damaging, hurtful, or unhealthy.
Here are a few signs you may be in a toxic relationship.
Whether it’s verbal or physical, it’s hurtful. If you’re in a relationship where name calling is the norm, you’re without a doubt in a toxic relationship. If arguments and disagreements turn physical, you’re in a toxic relationship.
Most people who find themselves in a long term relationship with an abusive person, stay because they think they can change them. You can’t change the unhealthy behaviors of an abuser. They have to want to change. The only thing you can do is pray for them, wish them well, and let God do the changing. Your safety should be your number one priority.
How do you protect yourself from a relationship with a potential abuser? You pay attention to the red flags.Read More
Going through heartbreak can feel like being underwater when you need to breathe. We build our lives with someone we trust and care for, and then, in the blink of an eye, it’s all gone. This can leave people feeling sorrow, anger, and some serious questions about themselves and the future.
If you’re dealing with heartbreak and want to heal, Here’s 10 Things You Should Never Do After a Breakup:
1. Don’t hold a grudge. Forgive them. Even if they’re not sorry. That doesn’t mean you have to get back together with them. You can forgive them, wish them well, and part ways. Forgiveness is an essential part of healing your broken heart. In order to move on, you need to forgive the other person.
2. Don’t be afraid to admit to your feelings. Let it out. It’s normal to feel sad. Don’t feel weak or stupid if you cry or get upset. These things are normal. Going through grief is just another step along the path to recovery. Let yourself grieve.
3. Don’t expect to heal overnight. If you expect to be completely healed in a day after being in a relationship for three-years, you could be sorely disappointed.
4. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Give yourself some ‘me’ time. You’ve probably been in a relationship for a while. Now is the time to take a step back, look at your life, and move on to the next challenge. Everyone falls down. It’s how you get back up that defines you.
5. Don’t obsess over whose fault it was. We all make mistakes. There are probably some things you wish you could change or take back. If so, focus on fixing those issues for your next relationship.
6. Don’t Speak out of Emotions. Avoid doing and/or saying something that you will end up regretting! Read more